A Bit of Advice

Poor communication seems to be the most common when dealing with marital issues.  From my understanding with relationships, people want to be understood but have a difficult time trying to understand. Not really listening becomes a pretty common factor as well, or should I say one-sided listening. When you’re only thinking about what you are going to say rather than opening up your ears and heart fully to your spouse then you set your self up for many arguments and disputes to happen.

A lot of people would rather choose being right more than being happy, which is a real sign of a lack of character. It takes a strong person to be able to choose being kind over being right in a discussion. A lot of it has to do with ego or a pride thing. When you are ready to work on you, then dealing with your spouse will seem to flow much easier. I’ve heard some negative things that were said about counseling and how it has a tendency to drain couples emotionally and financially.

I think it is great when people seek out marriage help whether it being from a pastor, psychiatrist or well trusted family friends, but when you both are getting nowhere in your relational growth and the relationship seems to be stagnating and dry then I would highly suggest looking into using a Marriage Fitness program.

Thankfully, I am not in a situation where I have to save my marriage but if I was, then you better believe I would check out Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. He has helped thousands of couples refrain from getting a divorce. He has also helped people find themselves in the relationship and teaches them how to love their spouses the way that they want to be loved. His insight is mind blowing and his teachings are life changing without a doubt.

How can we stop divorce from happening? The truth is we can’t ever stop it from happening we can only change our perception of who we are in the relationship and learn how to be the person that we need to be to our spouse. Divorce will happen if it is meant to happen. I am certainly not suggesting that divorce be a way out for anyone.

Hopefully, everything that can possibly be done to save the marriage will be done before ever even considering divorce as an option. I think that we just need to be open and receptive to change in our life. I think that it is easy for people to get complacent and comfortable with things being the way that they are in the relationship. If it isn’t convenient then why bother?

I’m telling you that when you disallow an opportunity for growth to pass you by then you are opening the door for divorce to be a possibility. Change the way you look at things and the things that you look at will change. I believe that every couple can have success in their relationships as long as people open up themselves up to change. As long as love is the focus of your growth and not money or power or pride, then love will never fail. It endures in all things until the ends of time…

Again, if you or anyone you know is in desperate need of marriage help then I suggest looking up Mort Fertel. I promise you that his services will not do you wrong. I know there are thousands of people out there thinking right now, how can I save my marriage? Well, the answer is out there. You can save your marriage. It starts with you and only you. Seek it and you will find it!